Section 18c
No Wonder Why Sex Sells:
SEXUAL SEX AND SEXUALITY IN QUESTION
What is the average age that people loose their virginity?
In the United States, between ages 16 and 17. However this is only an average age. This average can be skewed by the fact that a considerable number of people may engage in sex at a very young age such as 10 to 12 years old, yet few remain virgins past age 30. In my opinion, a more ideal age to engage in sexual intercourse for the first time is somewhere between 18 to 22, or even later.
About how many men admit to being unfaithful to their wife at some point in their marriage?
About 30% to 40% of American men.
Do most women prefer to have a male partner with a bigger than average penis?
No.
How can I find out if I'm gay?
There is no way a doctor or any other person can diagnose you as homosexual. Being gay is something you have to find out on your own. So far, there is no test that can prove someone is gay. To find out what your preference is, I would suggest considering what type of person you tend to have 'crushes' on, who you would like to fall in love with, and who most physically arouses you. It's not a good idea to test yourself by having straight sex in an attempt to prove you are not gay. This never works.
It's also important to mention that people's sexual preferences can change over time. Some teens feel homosexual when they are young, yet some adults find out they are gay when they get older. Some people's behaviors and thoughts are straight during their 30s yet they find out they are gay at age 50 or vice versa. Some people feel attracted to the same gender at age 14 but not at age 20. Whatever your sexuality is, it will be much easier to accept yourself, as you get older. Many teens turn to drugs, alcohol, or suicide simply because they think they might be gay. Nobody has to find out if they are gay or straight until they feel they are ready. On top of that, they are all different levels of sexual preference. Bisexuality is vague by definition and accounts for a large portion of the population even though most people do not discuss it openly.
Is homosexuality a disorder?
Keep in mind, I cannot consider myself straight so what I'm about to say is entirely objective. Setting my personal experiences aside with another male, I have to speak logically and realistically. Homosexuality is definitely a disorder in at least one way. I'd like to clarify the fact that I said, "...at least one way." I'm not saying that all homosexuals should be institutionalized or psychologically treated for their sexuality. In fact, most are probably content the way they are.
However, it can be argued that homosexuality is in fact a disorder. Many psychological and medical texts have renounced older statements that classify homosexuality as a disorder because the gay community spoke up and demanded they be rewritten. Of course, many gays do not want to be thought of as 'disordered'. However, we can see from examining the following simple argument that homosexuality can be classified as a sexual disorder in at least one way:
(Premise 1): [In-order]
One of the major functions of sexual relations and sexual intercourse is reproduction of the species. {True and Valid}
(Premise 2):
Homosexuals have sex. {True and Valid}
(Premise 3): [Dis-order]
No homosexual sexual activity can lead to the fulfillment of the sexual function known as reproduction. {True and Valid}
(Conclusion): Therefore, the lifestyle of homosexuality is a sexual disorder in at least one way. {Therefore, True and Valid}
Often people dispute the above statement with one of three defenses. (1) They say there is more to sexual relationships than reproduction. Of course there is. Note that I said, "One of the major functions of sexual relations..." in the first premise. (2) They say there are heterosexual couples who are infertile and cannot reproduce. Yes, this is true. It's also true that infertility is a sexual disorder. (3) They say homosexuals can adopt children. Once again, this is definitely true, but they can not reproduce on their own unless they engage in heterosexual activity.
I think the gay community hinders itself by boastful pride. Instead, the community should recognize the truth and the benefits of humility. This would serve as a more permanent bond as opposed to transient pride fests, marches, and parades. If you look up the word 'pride' or 'proud' in the dictionary, you'll see that it isn't a very positive word. If a person is content with who they are, they may want to consider being grateful (expressing gratitude, rather than pride).
What would your impression be of guys who promote masturbation as a part of social recreation activity among men? I refer here to masturbation only, rather than any kind of overt homosexual activity.
There are such organizations in many different cities. Honestly speaking, the activity often eventually turns into homosexual contact. These types of recreation locations usually attract homosexuals and bisexuals. It's not definite, but a significant number of homosexual relationships begin with a mere innocent mutual-masturbation experience. There is usually not 'overt-homosexual-activity' within the recreational facility itself but rather it typically serves as a meeting place for men, many of who(m) expect to go further after they meet someone.
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As far as an unorganized group of men who promote masturbation with each other is concerned, I would say that although they are not engaging in physical contact with each other, this activity certainly does not fall into the category of 'straight' or heterosexual yet it's not necessarily homosexual either.
Consider the following scenario:
Mike and Jim are roommates.
Mike and Jim masturbate together but never touch one another.
Mike and Jim prefer to masturbate rather than having sexual intercourse. It's safer, cleaner, and they feel like they know their own bodies better than anyone else.
Mike fantasizes about Jim being in the room when Jim is not around and vice-versa.
Having each other in the same room is fulfilling because it adds to the eroticism or adds the thrill of competition to their masturbation experiences
In this case, Mike and Jim are within the realm of homosexual ideation, although it is restricted. Men who find it erotically stimulating to watch others in the military barracks, jail, camp, war foxholes, etc., are also experiencing homosexual ideation. However, the vast majority of these men have no genuine involvement within the homosexual 'community', the homosexual 'lifestyle', or 'gay society'.
I recall wanting to be 100% heterosexual and would admit to nothing less. This, however, turned out to be false. If people take their experiences, fantasies, and relationships into account, sexuality is more diverse than it may initially appear. Therefore, only a small minority of us are entirely 100% straight or 100% gay,
If a man fantasizes about masturbation with another male, whether that be a fantasy about touching the other guy or just the presence of him in the same room, it counts as a fantasy (or desire) that is not heterosexual by definition. Some would say it is a homosexual fantasy (or desire). Personally, I used to try to justify this fact to the contrary in my own life.
It makes very little difference whether physical contact occurs or not. What is happening in the brain during the experience is what counts.
Why do you seem to advocate mutual masturbation and homosexual experiences in one section and then you seem to say something different in other sections?
I used to think societal acceptance of male group masturbation would be a neat idea. However, since I wrote a web page advocating masturbation, I found out first hand just how intimate friendly masturbation can be and what it can lead to down the line. I found out that for me, it should be done on a limited (monogamous) basis, if it's done at all. It may sound hypocritical to have the same text saying one thing in one place and then expression of a more conservative viewpoint in another place. However, 21st Century Realism is very real. Reality in the mind of man changes over time. How and why things occur and the results thereof are speculation. Plus, I look at this project like a biography, diary, journal, and a study rather than a springboard for sexuality politics. True, I do write things that may appear to be researched facts, but this is simply one way I can express realism though my analytical side. Besides, over the long haul of time, a balance in my own life is struck by expressing a range of positions. That makes good virtue.
What is Premature Male Ejaculation and how can I get over it?
This problem can be either psychological or physical. Physical problems are often more common, clear-cut, and treatable. A physician may be able to prescribe medication or other treatments. Psychological problems may take more time and patience to treat.
Two other things come to mind that can cause psychological premature ejaculation. One is infrequency of orgasm. If it has been a long time since the last ejaculation, a man is more likely to climax quickly and with less intensity. This is the easiest to fix because the man can simply ejaculate more often through masturbation or sex.
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Another possibility is that the male is overly sensitive. When one is overly sensitive, they have what is known as a 'quick trigger' and they ejaculate unexpectedly or much sooner than their partner would prefer.
The best way to overcome both of these problems is practice, practice, and practice. Systematic desensitization of the penis is necessary to enable the body to relax and give it some time before ejaculation. In-home manual practice is the safest remedy. Masturbation techniques such as the 'stop-and-go' method are sometimes used. With this method, the individual brings himself (or his partner manually brings him) almost to the point of orgasm, but when he feels himself starting to ejaculate, he stops promptly and rests for a moment before continuing. Stopping and going over and over again before ejaculation can help desensitize the penis over time.
Note that this technique works better if used with your partner's help and if it's practiced over a period of a few months. You can start the session out small, for about 5-10 minutes, and work your way up to 30-45-60 minutes gradually. Try to use the method during sexual intercourse after a few manual trials.
Note that magazine/Internet advertisements for creams or lotions that claim to cause the penis to stay hard longer are usually just gimmicks. Basically, all they will do is numb the penis -- possibly causing you to feel no sensation at all. Often, I must question the safety of these ointments.
Also, some men have taken cough syrup with the dextromethorophan ingredient to cause their penis to be less sensitive. They say a double or triple oral dose of this over-the-counter cough syrup enables them to prolong the period before ejaculation. They say they take the dextromethorophan cough syrup about an hour and a half before sex. However, some guys say that the cough syrup prevents them from getting an erection at all! I must question the ethics of recommending this 'quick fix'. Tripling the dose of any medication is not really the best idea. Also, it's not good to use a medicine for something it was not intended for yet some swear it's a safe and effective solution. This is another question that can be put on the list to ask a doctor.
Finally, I would like to mention that the medical community also recognizes premature ejaculation as a valid condition that can and should be treated by a doctor if the in-home manual practice techniques fail. There may be an underlying medical issue that is not psychological. Doctors are used to questions like this so it is nothing you should be embarrassed about. You can be certain they have seen many cases of it before.
What if I can't orgasm and where can I find out more?
If you are interested in finding information about your condition, try doing Internet or library searches by using the key word 'Anorgasmia'. Anorgasmia is a valid medical condition where the individual cannot orgasm for one reason or another. It may be a simple a matter of training yourself and/or your partner to allow for relaxation and stimulation of the proper areas. If you can orgasm through self-masturbation, have you tried including your partner when masturbating? Maybe you can show him/her what you are doing and allow him/her to finish with a different method or allow him/her to do what you are doing to yourself at the end. Try different forms of foreplay. Be sure to relax and give it time. Try different methods of sex such as oral sex, intercourse, or manual stimulation (mutual masturbation). Try combining several different methods in one session. Your issue is more common for women but it also occurs in men.
I am a 22 year old male, I have always had an attraction to men, but I have had a real love relationship with a woman. However, the attraction to men is growing. What can I do either realize my feelings or end them?
Often sexuality and sexual preference is not as simple as straight or gay. There is also everything in between. You say your attraction to men is growing. There can be several reasons for this. One reason can be that you might be lacking non-sexual male companions. In other words, do you have enough male friends? Unfortunately, this is only one of the possibilities for the increase in feelings for men.
It could be a sign that you have not found your sexual identity yet. It's not easy to just cover up the feelings. Some have found relief from homosexual feelings through religious or spiritual means and others claim that they have found relief though psychological therapy. Before going to these lengths to end your feelings, you have to ask yourself if you really do want to end them. It may be possible that you would be perfectly happy with a woman as a girlfriend or wife while you still have some types of feelings for men. Just because you have had fantasies or thoughts about men in a sexual way does not mean that you absolutely have to act on them. Just about everyone has had some type of dream or fantasy about someone of the same gender. However, not everyone acts on them in real life. Personally, I see lots of girls and guys that are attractive but it doesn't mean that I have to have sex with all of them.
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On the other hand, if you feel you truly need another man to feel complete and loved, your issue may be deeper than just getting aroused at the sight of an attractive man. It's also worth pointing out that just because you are a 22-year-old adult, age doesn't mean you have to have everything figured out. People grow and develop well into their 20s and beyond. Life's experiences will determine your future. Gaining these important experiences just takes time. Give yourself a chance to relax and grow.
I'm Addicted to masturbating and the Internet makes it too easy. Sex life with my wife has gone away because of this.
Your problem involves two issues:
1) Too much time on the Internet
2) Too much sex by yourself
As far as addictive masturbation goes, that is rarely the problem in itself. Theoretically, You could include your partner in on any masturbation you do. You could have her manually stimulate you, masturbate with her, masturbate her and yourself at the same time, or ask her to watch. However, she is not going to want to be doing these intimate things while you have your computer on in front of you -- most likely. There is the annoying compulsion to have the computer on while doing it that is a big part of the problem.
Many people who think they are addicted to cyber-sex are most likely suffering from the refusal to deal with other problems in their lives. Those problems may be a result of anxiety, depression, a serious medical issue, or a relationship dilemma. It is not much different than obsessively turning on the television so you won't have to deal with your partner or going out to drink/use drugs so you won't have to spend as much time at home. The only thing that is different in these escape methods is the manner of escape. It's not the technology or chemical that is important in the addiction. Rather, it's the escape-minded behavior that is the problem. Behaviors are often treatable by cognitive-behavior methods used by professional psychotherapists. Free and anonymous support groups that may provide a mental, social, and/or spiritual solution can also aid in relief of many addiction prone individuals.
I would recommend seeing a professional counselor to talk about this issue. Depending on very specific things you say, your diagnoses could go in several different directions. It is impossible for me to be any more specific based on the information you have provided. But you are doing the right thing by writing about this issue. You have a good handle on your problem so far. You are very far ahead of those who are in denial of their behavior. Knowledge of the problem is half the battle.
[Bestiality] Is it OK to have sex with a dog or any other animal?
No, bestiality is unjustifiable, in my opinion. (1) The human penis may be too large for dogs or other animals, possibly causing serious injury to the animal or the person. (2) The animal cannot consent to sex because they can not speak. In reality, having sex with an animal is taking unfair advantage of the animal. (3) You could get some type of germ or virus from the animal. (4) In many places, it's illegal.
Having said all that, I can also mention that sex with animals is not as uncommon as some people may think. I've known a few guys who have mentioned it to me. They had sex with farm animals out of curiosity or extreme boredom.
I would seriously recommend simply growing out of it if you're just experimenting. On the other hand, if this is an issue that is not easily put aside, I would recommend professional therapy counseling.
If you enjoy having sex with things other than people, try food products such as melons, hams, fruits, or vegetables, etc.
Whenever my girlfriend gives me oral sex, she spits out the semen because she heard that it's unhealthy to swallow. Is this true? Can a pregnancy result?
No. Semen is not unhealthy to swallow and it cannot cause a girl to get pregnant if swallowed. Semen is made up of proteins, compounds, and fluids that are already inside the body of both males and females. The sperm within the semen is many little tiny single cell units that also cause no harm if swallowed. However, semen usually tastes very salty and has a very strange texture on the tongue. I can understand why someone would not like swallowing it. If she doesn't like the taste, I think you should respect that.
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Another thing that is worth mentioning is that some sexually transmitted diseases can be transmitted though giving or receiving oral sex. I would recommend that if you have multiple partners in the future that you consider masturbating each other though the clothing, petting, or rubbing together in a sexual intercourse motion with your clothes on. These things feel great and are totally safe.
I have a friend who is extremely homophobic but this same guy has told me that he can find men attractive and that he believes it possible that two men can love each other. Is this guy gay? Are you aware of any 'treatment' for homophobia?
As for the first part of your question (Is this guy gay?), I apologize that I cannot provide you with an absolute YES or NO. Homosexuality is not something that can be diagnosed like the flu or cancer. According to modern psychology, it is no longer classified as a mental illness. One major reason for that is because there are all different degrees of 'gayness' and 'straightness'. Before we try to decide who is gay, we must ask what qualifies someone as truly gay?
For example, take the following case: A 25-year-old male has had three long-term relationships with women since he was 18 years old. But since he was 12, he frequently masturbated while thinking about other guys. However, he mainly only imagined other guys masturbating in his fantasies instead of 'real' sex with them. He has never had a problem getting aroused for females and enjoys female company and companionship. Yet he admits that a good-looking guy causes him to become aroused. He imagines getting married in the future and having children plus he finds it difficult to imagine himself spending his life with another guy in a gay relationship. On the other hand, it sometimes worries him that he thinks about men while masturbating.
Is the above case gay? Is he bisexual? If he met the right guy, would he fall in love with him? Maybe if he got married and had children, he would find his ultimate happiness with a female. Maybe his feelings and thoughts about men and women will change as he ages.
It becomes clear that when we examine a case like this, nobody could not diagnose him a gay or straight. He seems to be somewhere in-between. Cases similar to the one I mentioned above are far more common than our society cares to admit. In fact, lots of people end up settling on whatever end of the sexual spectrum seems more comfortable to them yet remnants of other sexual preferences may still remain in their personality.
What's the story on Homophobia?
There are a few different theories on homophobia. One fascinating study of men showed that fear and sexual arousal have the exact same reaction in the eyes and in the penis. Although the men did not get fully erect when they experienced fear, there was a detectable increase in the volume of blood in the penis. As far as the eyes are concerned, it is very clear that human beings do experience pupil dilation when scared and when sexually aroused. When 100 homophobic men were shown gay pornographic films, a device measured eye and penis responses. Interestingly enough, there seemed to be evidence in support of the theory that homophobics have homosexual feelings. However, could it just be possible that our bodies react in similar ways when it comes to fear and sexual arousal? Could it be possible that fear and sexual arousal are very closely related emotions? It's very difficult to say for sure.
An interesting aspect of homophobia is that some gay men claim that they used to be homophobic before they 'came out' or came to grips with their true inner feelings. However, many gay men say they were not homophobic at any time in their life. There is no conclusive evidence either way you look at it.
Another possible cause of homophobia is fear of the unknown. I think this is the most common cause of homophobia, by far. If someone does not know anything about a particular issue or lifestyle, there is bound to be a certain amount of fear associated with it. A homophobic could try to become better educated and more aware of what they do not know much about.
Sexual abuse or molestation is something that I did not mention yet. Homophobia can come about because of a negative sexual experience with another man.
Maybe it could come about because a guy is good looking and gets hit on by gay men often. It's impossible to say for sure. There can definitely be more than one cause of homophobia.
[Fetishes] I'm a young guy that gets very sexually aroused at the sight of cartoon character brief underwear. Is this perverted?
What is 'perverted" or 'non-perverted' is in the eye of the beholder. In other words, some people may say, "Yes!" It is strange that a guy is turned on by cartoon briefs. However, I would personally say that you are not perverted. It sounds like you just have a minor fetish. A fetish is a sexual arousal for a non-sexual thing such as feet, shoes, adult-size-diapers, cartoon characters on underwear, leather, sneezing, food products, aromas, bondage, etc. Fetishes are really no big deal as long as you aren't hurting anyone else.
Is cross-dressing normal? I have had these feelings for most of my life.
No, cross-dressing is not normal. However, I am defining 'normal' as what we typically see in the American society. It is the society as a whole that determines if something is odd and unusual. For a male to wear female clothing (and to a lesser extent, for a female to wear male clothing) is unusual. Although it is not normal, I don't think it is necessarily harmful. After all, it's only clothing. You're not hurting anyone else if you do it. If it's something that really bothers you about yourself, you can seek professional therapy for the issue but if it's something you just enjoy as a fetish, I'm certainly not going to say I think you should be locked up or punished for it. But personally, I'm also not going to do it or encourage it. However, I believe in principles such as 'live-and-let-live'. Not everyone else in this world would react so passively open-minded about cross-dressing, like I do.
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Anal sex hurts me a lot. Can you give us some advice on how to make it less painful?
There are a few things you can try to make it less painful. However, some people are just not cut out for anal sex. First, be sure to use plenty of lubrication. Use some KY Jelly from a drug store, cooking oil, lotion, baby oil, etc. Second, it may be that your partner is trying to penetrate too deep. Every human body is different. If your intestine happens to bend (curve) near the rectum, you will experience pain if he goes in too far. Keep in mind that anal canal is usually more narrow and shallow than the vaginal canal. It's possible that much of your cramping and anxiety is due to worrying about getting it right. One does truly need to learn to relax with such a tedious activity like anal sex.
Like I said above, not everyone is cut out for anal sex. In fact, a minority of men and women view the receiving end of anal activity as their preference. I was surprised to find that some reports say only about 60% of gay men engage in anal sex regularly. I'm sure the statistics are much lower for women. In fact, only 30% to 40% of women on various surveys admit to having anal intercourse once. A lot of people say it's one thing to fantasize about it but that actually doing it does not feel good. Many simply prefer frontal intercourse, oral sex, petting, or mutual masturbation.
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